Reader, I Married Him Part 2 - Wedding Photos

My wedding photos arrived and in my state of “bedridden-ness” from the flu, I was able to muster up just enough strength to utter a cry of joy on receiving them. I look back on 2017 and realize I am blessed beyond measure. BEYOND measure. Today, a “memory” popped up on Facebook from several years ago. It was a post I had written about how I was sitting in such a dark place and that the few years prior were such hard years to get through, but that God had been faithful nonetheless. As you look through my wedding photos, I urge you to look through them in light of the darkness I had walked out of and in view of God’s complete grace and mercy, because all of this is so undeserved. To my Church, to my family, my closest friends, and to those who follow my blog and send positivity from afar and who care about what’s going on in my life or what I have to say, thank you for walking me through my wilderness, my Red Sea, and my Jericho. You are so loved. 

Now, let’s get to these photos, shall we? 

ALL PHOTOGRAPHY BY: Jorge & Sarah Macias

VENUE: Europa Village Winery, Temecula, CA

Europa Village Winery

Europa Village Winery

EUROPA VILLAGE ON-SITE COORDINATOR: Yesika Lavyn-Grose

FLOWERS/DECOR: Stephanie Vasquez  

My vision was to have a classic, clean, fresh and SIMPLE look. Less is more, in my case. I wanted to look at my wedding photos 20 years from now and not be put off by a single color or two and feel like it was only beautiful for that time. Two-color motifs and having an “accent color” seemed outdated to me and just isn’t my style anyway, so instead, I opted for a Neutral Palette: blushes, taupes, shades of beige, shades of gray, "oak", mild greenery, etc. I shared this vision with Stephanie and she knew what “neutral palette” meant: lots and lots and lots of eucalyptus (as they have a shade of gray in their leaves depending on the angle of the lighting), and flowers that weren’t too bright. I let Stephanie do her thing, and she worked her magic. 

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Stephanie hand-wrote this chalkboard art. This is the Bible Verse that Ross and I carry in our hearts daily. “To Him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we can ever ask or imagine...” (Ephesians 3:20).

Stephanie hand-wrote this chalkboard art. This is the Bible Verse that Ross and I carry in our hearts daily. “To Him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we can ever ask or imagine...” (Ephesians 3:20).

This is an album of our Engagement photos which we also made into a guest book where our guests could leave us a little note. My favorite note is by my 10-year-old nephew, Micah. He wrote, "Good luck with her." LOL.

This is an album of our Engagement photos which we also made into a guest book where our guests could leave us a little note. My favorite note is by my 10-year-old nephew, Micah. He wrote, "Good luck with her." LOL.

I did not want an arch made of ONLY flowers as that has always looked too over-the-top to me. So, Stephanie filled the arch with Eucalyptus and accented it with flowers here and there. This was perfect and I cried when I first saw how beautiful it looked. 

I did not want an arch made of ONLY flowers as that has always looked too over-the-top to me. So, Stephanie filled the arch with Eucalyptus and accented it with flowers here and there. This was perfect and I cried when I first saw how beautiful it looked. 

The perfect definition of "less is more."

The perfect definition of "less is more."

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I wanted long banquet tables for my guests, as opposed to the round ones typically found in weddings. Round tables always felt a little too “prom-ish” to me. I kept envisioning long banquet tables because they are often mentioned in the Bible. Seeing this made me think of the Wedding Feast of the Lamb. It gives me good goosebumps. 

I wanted long banquet tables for my guests, as opposed to the round ones typically found in weddings. Round tables always felt a little too “prom-ish” to me. I kept envisioning long banquet tables because they are often mentioned in the Bible. Seeing this made me think of the Wedding Feast of the Lamb. It gives me good goosebumps. 

Banquet Table place setting. 

Banquet Table place setting. 

The Children's Table was Round because I wanted to differentiate their table from all others to make the Little Ones feel special.

The Children's Table was Round because I wanted to differentiate their table from all others to make the Little Ones feel special.

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Bride & Groom Sweetheart Table

Bride & Groom Sweetheart Table

I mean...those flowers. Could they be any more perfect??

I mean...those flowers. Could they be any more perfect??

Stephanie and I wanted to make sure that the color scheme and the florals went well with the already existing landscape of the winery. I wanted to complement the venue by respecting what it already offered. Steph hit this out of the ballpark.  

Stephanie and I wanted to make sure that the color scheme and the florals went well with the already existing landscape of the winery. I wanted to complement the venue by respecting what it already offered. Steph hit this out of the ballpark.  

A close-up of my Bouquet. GORGEOUS.

A close-up of my Bouquet. GORGEOUS.

 

 

GETTING READY

HAIR: Ryan Reed

MAKE-UP: Nicole England

The bridal suite on site set me up with a custom bottle of wine engraved with mine and Ross' names and wedding date, a bucket full of ice to keep my several bottles of champagne cold, and all the amenities I needed to have a great time while I got ready.

The bridal suite on site set me up with a custom bottle of wine engraved with mine and Ross' names and wedding date, a bucket full of ice to keep my several bottles of champagne cold, and all the amenities I needed to have a great time while I got ready.

Ladies, this mug don't get beat by itself! I still need help. MAC and Nicole England to the rescue!

Ladies, this mug don't get beat by itself! I still need help. MAC and Nicole England to the rescue!

Baby Girl sneaked in a kiss because she wanted my lipstick color on her lips, too.

Baby Girl sneaked in a kiss because she wanted my lipstick color on her lips, too.

My "something borrowed": one of my best friend's, Noelle Pederson’s earrings that she wore on the day she got married.

My "something borrowed": one of my best friend's, Noelle Pederson’s earrings that she wore on the day she got married.

Noelle's husband, Luke, and their baby Jamie, came by to visit as well. 

Noelle's husband, Luke, and their baby Jamie, came by to visit as well. 

My blond nephew, Kyro, getting ready by his Mama, my sister Rachel.

My blond nephew, Kyro, getting ready by his Mama, my sister Rachel.

My Mama. At 74 years old, and being married to my Dad for 54 years, she is the kind of wife I want to be to Ross.

My Mama. At 74 years old, and being married to my Dad for 54 years, she is the kind of wife I want to be to Ross.

Dress by BHLDN (Anthropologie); Shoes by Steve Madden

Dress by BHLDN (Anthropologie); Shoes by Steve Madden

Our rings. The one with the jade stone on it is the one that Sophia will be getting from Ross. It is her "wedding ring."

Our rings. The one with the jade stone on it is the one that Sophia will be getting from Ross. It is her "wedding ring."

Sophia Grace checking herself out. She just got her hair and makeup done, too.

Sophia Grace checking herself out. She just got her hair and makeup done, too.

Stephanie wove those flowers in for Sophia's head crown...and Sophia made sure Bear came prepared with his own Suit.

Stephanie wove those flowers in for Sophia's head crown...and Sophia made sure Bear came prepared with his own Suit.

Bear's gotta get pinned, too, ya know?

Bear's gotta get pinned, too, ya know?

Helping Mommy get ready

Helping Mommy get ready

Holy hotness.

Holy hotness.

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Can you say “tall, dark, and handsome?” I mean...GRACIOUS.  

Can you say “tall, dark, and handsome?” I mean...GRACIOUS.  

FIRST LOOK

I remember our First Look being very quiet and anticipatory. Yes, I was excited, but mostly, I could just feel the sacredness weighing very heavy in the atmosphere. We decided to do a First Look so that the 3 of us (and Bear) could share a very intimate moment together before guests arrived. We drove to the venue as a couple with my daughter——but that after the wedding, we would leave as a FAMILY. Our First Look was a very emotional experience and I'm glad Jorge & Sarah captured the essence of how sacred it palpably felt to all of us.

Waiting...

Waiting...

Approaching...  

Approaching...  

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First we smiled... 

First we smiled... 

Then we cried... 

Then we cried... 

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"Why are you guys crying?" - Sophia

"Why are you guys crying?" - Sophia

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Anxiously awaiting the becoming of an “official” family! 

Anxiously awaiting the becoming of an “official” family! 

 

CEREMONY

SINGERS: sister Rachel, and my worship pastor, Trevor Kelso

Officiant: Joshua Harrison

Guests arrive!

Guests arrive!

Trevor opened the ceremony in worship. It was important for me to acknowledge that God had put this all together, so I chose songs that declared His character. I asked Trev to sing "Indescribable" and "Good, Good Father." My sister, Rachel, sang "Great Is Thy Faithfulness” as I walked down the aisle.

Trevor opened the ceremony in worship. It was important for me to acknowledge that God had put this all together, so I chose songs that declared His character. I asked Trev to sing "Indescribable" and "Good, Good Father." My sister, Rachel, sang "Great Is Thy Faithfulness” as I walked down the aisle.

In Ancient Near East practice, Covenant Makers would cut animals in half and walk down the aisle of their carcasses as if to say, "If I break this covenant, may it be done unto me as it is to these animals." (Ever heard of the term “let’s cut a deal”? Yep, that’s where it came from). Entering into a Covenant of any kind in that culture was legally binding, a very serious matter, and punishable by death. Ross and I wanted to walk into our Covenant with the same seriousness and reverence. We don’t walk down the aisle of dead animal carcasses but we do walk down the aisle in between family and friends as witnesses. Typically the Groom and the Officiant arrive at the front of the ceremony somewhere from the side. But we refused to do it that way. Ross and I decided HE would walk down the aisle also because HE is a Covenant Maker, too.

In Ancient Near East practice, Covenant Makers would cut animals in half and walk down the aisle of their carcasses as if to say, "If I break this covenant, may it be done unto me as it is to these animals." (Ever heard of the term “let’s cut a deal”? Yep, that’s where it came from). Entering into a Covenant of any kind in that culture was legally binding, a very serious matter, and punishable by death. Ross and I wanted to walk into our Covenant with the same seriousness and reverence. We don’t walk down the aisle of dead animal carcasses but we do walk down the aisle in between family and friends as witnesses. Typically the Groom and the Officiant arrive at the front of the ceremony somewhere from the side. But we refused to do it that way. Ross and I decided HE would walk down the aisle also because HE is a Covenant Maker, too.

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The Bridegroom waiting for his Bride.

The Bridegroom waiting for his Bride.

Ross and I opted not to have a wedding party with bridesmaids and groomsmen. Rather, we decided to honor both of our parents for their successful and GENUINELY HAPPY marriages...marriages grounded in real Faith, Love, Loyalty, Trust, Forgiveness, Respect, and Love—- everything Ross and I want to incorporate in our own marriage.

Parents of the Groom: Orbbe & Joyce Chadderdon

Parents of the Groom: Orbbe & Joyce Chadderdon

My parents: Rev. Walter & Rowena de los Santos  

My parents: Rev. Walter & Rowena de los Santos  

I remember feeling like this was the most privileged thing I get to do, and the most beautiful expression of commitment I could make: to be a co-Covenant Maker with Ross. 

I remember feeling like this was the most privileged thing I get to do, and the most beautiful expression of commitment I could make: to be a co-Covenant Maker with Ross. 

His reaction upon seeing me and Sophia.

His reaction upon seeing me and Sophia.

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My Dad is a basket case and my Mom trying to keep it together. She always looks tough when she’s trying to keep the tears in, because once she starts, she can’t stop! 

My Dad is a basket case and my Mom trying to keep it together. She always looks tough when she’s trying to keep the tears in, because once she starts, she can’t stop! 

Singing along to “Great Is Thy Faithfulness” as the words couldn’t have rung more true in the position I was standing in that day.

Singing along to “Great Is Thy Faithfulness” as the words couldn’t have rung more true in the position I was standing in that day.

Sophia "gave me away." She walked me down the aisle because Ross wasn't only marrying me, he was "marrying" her, too.

Sophia "gave me away." She walked me down the aisle because Ross wasn't only marrying me, he was "marrying" her, too.

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A reading of 1 Corinthians 13 by Ross' older brother, Ryan.

A reading of 1 Corinthians 13 by Ross' older brother, Ryan.

Josh Harrison sharing the beauty of marriage and the responsibility of expressing it properly to the world.

Josh Harrison sharing the beauty of marriage and the responsibility of expressing it properly to the world.

Sophia will never forget this day. I am so happy she got to witness what real Covenant looks like.

Sophia will never forget this day. I am so happy she got to witness what real Covenant looks like.

Ross and I wrote our own vows. He couldn't stop crying. Neither could I.

Ross and I wrote our own vows. He couldn't stop crying. Neither could I.

"Ross...I can wear white today because you see me this way..." was how I started my vows.  “...it was granted her to clothe herself with fine linen, bright and pure.” (Revelation 19:8)

"Ross...I can wear white today because you see me this way..." was how I started my vows.

“...it was granted her to clothe herself with fine linen, bright and pure.” (Revelation 19:8)

My family couldn’t keep it together. They love Ross so much! 

My family couldn’t keep it together. They love Ross so much! 

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Ross presented Sophia with vows and a Promise Ring that she has never taken off to this day. How beautiful that Ross' vows to her didn't come with a contingency that she had to say any vows back to him. They are unconditional. 

Ross presented Sophia with vows and a Promise Ring that she has never taken off to this day. How beautiful that Ross' vows to her didn't come with a contingency that she had to say any vows back to him. They are unconditional. 

Rings Ceremony

Rings Ceremony

You may now kiss the bride!

You may now kiss the bride!

Oh, wait, but Ross just couldn't get enough! So he went in for the full embrace, too!  I overheard our Officiant say "THERE YOU GO!" 

Oh, wait, but Ross just couldn't get enough! So he went in for the full embrace, too!  I overheard our Officiant say "THERE YOU GO!" 

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Announced as Mr. & Mrs. Chadderdon! I am so proud to carry this name.

Announced as Mr. & Mrs. Chadderdon! I am so proud to carry this name.

Father acknowledging how proud he is of his son, and son acknowledges back. 

Father acknowledging how proud he is of his son, and son acknowledges back. 

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THE RECEPTION

DEEJAY & ANNOUNCER: Trevor Kelso

Freehand by Vivi Pederson

Freehand by Vivi Pederson

Cocktail Hour

Cocktail Hour

Hi, Trev. You're such a good sport. We love you.

Hi, Trev. You're such a good sport. We love you.

Our entrance. 

Our entrance. 

Getting ready for dinner

Getting ready for dinner

With my vision of having long banquet tables for guests (versus those round ones), this picture is EXACTLY how I pictured our wedding feast to look like! 

With my vision of having long banquet tables for guests (versus those round ones), this picture is EXACTLY how I pictured our wedding feast to look like! 

Seeing all of our family and close friends celebrating us, we had the best view in the house.

Seeing all of our family and close friends celebrating us, we had the best view in the house.

The Groom praying before our wonderful dinner.

The Groom praying before our wonderful dinner.

Rachel sang a song I requested from her:  "Better When We're Together" by Jack Johnson

Rachel sang a song I requested from her:  "Better When We're Together" by Jack Johnson

My brother-in-law, Dale, surprised me by playing the bass!!

My brother-in-law, Dale, surprised me by playing the bass!!

Also a surprise was my niece, Lexi, who sang "I'm Yours" by Jason Mraz.

Also a surprise was my niece, Lexi, who sang "I'm Yours" by Jason Mraz.

I didn't anticipate we needed a dance floor...but dancing all around!

I didn't anticipate we needed a dance floor...but dancing all around!

Another surprise: when my sister called me up to sing a song. No practice. She just busted out lyrics to "What a Difference You've Made In My Life", started playing, and then I had no choice but to just start singing :) Press play on the video below. 

Another surprise: when my sister called me up to sing a song. No practice. She just busted out lyrics to "What a Difference You've Made In My Life", started playing, and then I had no choice but to just start singing :) Press play on the video below. 

My husband's reaction.

My husband's reaction.

Rock Harbor in da houuuuuuse! My church family is amazing, and Ross and I LOVE THEM!  L to R: Josh (officiant), Savannah, Ross & I, Ally, Stephanie (florist), Trevor (deejay and announcer), and Jorge & Sarah Macias (photographers). This photo was taken on a timer on Jorge's camera.

Rock Harbor in da houuuuuuse! My church family is amazing, and Ross and I LOVE THEM!

L to R: Josh (officiant), Savannah, Ross & I, Ally, Stephanie (florist), Trevor (deejay and announcer), and Jorge & Sarah Macias (photographers). This photo was taken on a timer on Jorge's camera.

Deejay Trevor Kelso.

Deejay Trevor Kelso.

My mom insisted my siblings and I sing a song from our childhood. So we sang, the "Body Song." 

My mom insisted my siblings and I sing a song from our childhood. So we sang, the "Body Song." 

My brother is enthusiastically singing his part of The Heart...he also had too much wine by that time.

My brother is enthusiastically singing his part of The Heart...he also had too much wine by that time.

Guests couldn’t help but videotape the madness.

Guests couldn’t help but videotape the madness.

Guests particularly enjoyed my brother. What can I say? Our family is the only family i know that provides their own entertainment at our own weddings!

Guests particularly enjoyed my brother. What can I say? Our family is the only family i know that provides their own entertainment at our own weddings!

My mom is in STITCHES.

My mom is in STITCHES.

My sister Ruth (far right) and I have known Noelle (far left) and Puja since I was about 16 years old. Our friendship goes waaaay back. 

My sister Ruth (far right) and I have known Noelle (far left) and Puja since I was about 16 years old. Our friendship goes waaaay back. 

BCS SHOWED UP! Ross and I met on March 19, 2016 at the joint birthday party of Russy (far left) and Tommy (far right). With us from L to R from Russy is Jake & Carrie Sowers, and Seth Grim. We all played in the same Flag Football League together.

BCS SHOWED UP! Ross and I met on March 19, 2016 at the joint birthday party of Russy (far left) and Tommy (far right). With us from L to R from Russy is Jake & Carrie Sowers, and Seth Grim. We all played in the same Flag Football League together.

Suemur & Stella Bezabeh (2nd and 3rd from the right), is a couple that Ross was roommates with when he first moved out to California. They have played a very large role in Ross' life and I am grateful to them.

Suemur & Stella Bezabeh (2nd and 3rd from the right), is a couple that Ross was roommates with when he first moved out to California. They have played a very large role in Ross' life and I am grateful to them.

Cake is by Susie Cakes. Stephanie did a great job decorating it with the flowers she chose.

Cake is by Susie Cakes. Stephanie did a great job decorating it with the flowers she chose.

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My brother and his wife, and my in-laws dancing.

My brother and his wife, and my in-laws dancing.

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My teenaged nieces loved it when Trevor started playing The Backstret Boys. 

My teenaged nieces loved it when Trevor started playing The Backstret Boys. 

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Apparently, so did Buzzy! 

Apparently, so did Buzzy! 

The song that Ross and I danced to before the reception ended was Savage Garden's "I Knew I Loved You (Before I Met You)" because Ross knew he was going to marry me before he had even met me. Remember in an earlier blog post when I mentioned the part where Ross sent his friends that text saying he was going to marry me? That was sent 10 days before I walked through his front door and met for the first time. The lyrics go: “Maybe it’s intuition. But there are things you just don’t question. Like in your eyes I see my future in an instant. There it goes, I think I found my best friend. I know that it might sound more than a little crazy but I believe I knew I loved you before I met you...”

The song that Ross and I danced to before the reception ended was Savage Garden's "I Knew I Loved You (Before I Met You)" because Ross knew he was going to marry me before he had even met me. Remember in an earlier blog post when I mentioned the part where Ross sent his friends that text saying he was going to marry me? That was sent 10 days before I walked through his front door and met for the first time. The lyrics go: “Maybe it’s intuition. But there are things you just don’t question. Like in your eyes I see my future in an instant. There it goes, I think I found my best friend. I know that it might sound more than a little crazy but I believe I knew I loved you before I met you...”

 

PORTRAITS

 

This wedding brought my 5 sisters, 1 brother, and both parents together for the first time in 30 years. That means getting them to come from the Philippines, Okinawa (Japan), Hawaii, and all over California. Cheers to that!

This wedding brought my 5 sisters, 1 brother, and both parents together for the first time in 30 years. That means getting them to come from the Philippines, Okinawa (Japan), Hawaii, and all over California. Cheers to that!

I cannot tell you how grateful and honored I am to have married into such a wonderful family with wonderful people. 

I cannot tell you how grateful and honored I am to have married into such a wonderful family with wonderful people. 

With our parents.

With our parents.

All of these kids now call Ross “UNCLE ROSS” (and Sophie calls him “Papa Rossi”). Not all of my nephews are pictured, however. The nephews not pictured are all under 3 years old. It was very difficult to get them together in one place to take one photo. But I am so glad that they were all there to celebrate, even if they couldn't make it in this photo. (And look at the happiness on Sophia's face...and the sass in her pose!)

All of these kids now call Ross “UNCLE ROSS” (and Sophie calls him “Papa Rossi”). Not all of my nephews are pictured, however. The nephews not pictured are all under 3 years old. It was very difficult to get them together in one place to take one photo. But I am so glad that they were all there to celebrate, even if they couldn't make it in this photo. (And look at the happiness on Sophia's face...and the sass in her pose!)

Officially, the Chadderdon Ohana!!

Officially, the Chadderdon Ohana!!

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Our entire venue from the top of a hill, Post-ceremony, Cocktail hour.  

Our entire venue from the top of a hill, Post-ceremony, Cocktail hour.  

There were details in this wedding that I found too trivial to pay attention to: like favors. I didn’t have any for my guests. They’re a waste and found them unnecessary. I didn’t have candles at the altar, or ceremony programs, etc. My “details” were all in the symbolism, and historical data. You know I’m a nerd. What did you expect??! Haha. But in all seriousness, I wanted my version of the details—-like the songs I chose to be sung, why I chose long banquet tables, or why Ross and I decided that he would walk down the aisle, too—-to stand out because they meant so much to Ross and me. 

I hope you enjoyed what you saw. Thank you for following our love story.  

With so much love, affection, and gratitude: 

Ross & Guada Chadderdon

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