Reader, I Married Him - Part 1
I MARRIED HIM!!!!!!! Ross asked me to be his wife almost 7 months ago, I said "yes!" If you're here looking for more wedding photos, I apologize. I got married 2 days ago, so I don't have them, yet. This is why this post is "Part 1"---I want to share with you the details of the wedding ceremony so that Part 2 will be all about just the photos that Jorge and Sarah Macias so beautifully captured on what is one of THE happiest and most beautiful day of my life.
It was important for Ross and I to celebrate the goodness and great works of God, so Singer/Guitarist (and deejay extraordinaire), Trevor Kelso, opened up the ceremony with two songs that declared the character and goodness of the Lord by singing "Indescribable" and "Good, Good Father."
My younger sister, Rachel, played the guitar beside him and sang "Great Is Thy Faithfulness" while Sophia walked me down the aisle.
Ross and I decided against having a bridal party---we opted to invite only about 55 people, and 35 of them was just my immediate family (my sisters keep having babies). I sooo wish that I could have invited 500-1,000 of you---but it was out of our budget and we wanted to keep the event very small and intimate. Even our vendors were practically family. So, in lieu of a traditional bridal party, we both honored our parents by having them walk down the aisle ahead of Sophia and I.
Ross' older brother, Ryan, then read 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, a reminder of what real love looks like: patient, kind, not envious, not proud but doused in humility, it does not dishonor and isn't self-seeking. It is not irritable or resentful. It doesn't rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. It bears, hopes, and endures all things.
I remember the first time Ross told me he loved me (8 days after we met). I just looked at him, scared, thinking about previous scars and previous empty promises and asked, "What does that even mean to you?"
Ross' response was different from any one I'd ever asked that question. He said, "It means that on every level, I am ready and willing to sacrifice for you."
Love is sacrificial, and Ross got that. He was willing to sacrifice his freedoms, and his ways for me and for Sophie. Because to him, Sophie and I were worth it.
Both Ross and I were a blubbering mess the day of the wedding. We opted to write our own vows and in the process of doing so, we each separately remembered the goodness and faithfulness of God to us and we couldn't help but be overwhelmed with tears. Days prior to the event were filled with tears of gratefulness. Even more so, the day-of. And surprisingly still so afterwards. I was able to wear white that day because Ross sees me that way: pure, precious, and a gift. We recounted our journey and praised what we loved about each other, and gave God the glory as we publicly recognized his restoration and redemption over our lives, marked and sealed by an over abundance of Divine Grace and Mercy.
Ross wrote a set of vows to Sophia and also purchased a ring for her. Ross' vows to Sophia was unconditional---it neither depended on her behavior or how he's feeling that day, nor did his vows require Sophia to say vows back to him. It is a beautiful act of unselfishness, much like God's unconditional love for us.
Our officiant (and friend and Pastor) Josh Harrison, delivered a beautiful message about how earthly marriages are supposed to reflect God's unwavering love and faithfulness for His people: a visual and physical representation of a spiritual reality. Though Ross and I are not perfect, it is a beautiful goal to attempt to attain daily and refocuses the beauty of marriage to be about God, not about us. Gary Thomas in his book Sacred Marriage says, "If you want to be free to serve Jesus, there’s no question—stay single. Marriage takes a lot of time. But if you want to become more like Jesus, I can’t imagine any better thing to do than to get married. Being married forces you to face some character issues you’d never have to face otherwise."
Our recessional was prompted by a worship song called "Dance Again." It was an appropriate response, declaring the faithfulness of God that would sustain us.
Sunset came at 6:30, and we took photos in the vineyard while our guests enjoyed cocktail hour before dinner was served.
The bar served a white sangria, and red and white wine straight from their vineyard. Our menu consisted of the following:
Appetizers: Papaya & Monterey Jack Skewers Spinach & Feta Phyllo Turnover
Starter: Roasted Beetrave and Brie Salad
Entreés: Chicken Piccata / Bollero Cellars Tempranillo Braised Beef
Cake: Marble Vanilla cake by Susiecakes
Trevor sang, my sister sang, my niece sang, and even I sang! My 5 sisters and 1 brother sang a childhood song we all learned as kids, too! (by order and request of our parents. This wedding brought my entire family together---my parents had all 7 of their children in the same place at the same time WITH them for the first time in 30 years. Soak that in for a second).
My little nephews danced, my brother let wine get the best of him (hahaha), and Ross and I danced and shimmied with our guests and took more photos with them. I didn't want the night to end. I remember almost every detail, and soaked in every moment.
Ross and I hope to reflect the beauty of Covenant, and we hope to display the Love of God as we strive to love each other...even on days we don't feel like it. Trust us, we are not immune to the reality of this mystery of "becoming one." I've experienced enough to know that marriage is not easy and requires work and intentionality. Ross is fully aware of my faults and my shortcomings. He chooses to love me anyway. We commit to tend this garden we call marriage---and that means proactively placing boundaries around our garden and not allowing in things and people that could threaten our union; pulling out the weeds we can see budding, tilling the soil, and tending to the blooms; watering it daily with words and actions that help make it grow and making provisions during those seasons every marriage goes through. Intentionality and Proactiveness. We hope that over the years, we master both.
Look out for Part 2. It will be filled with photos of the wedding day. In the meantime, here's a teaser: